Thursday, May 28, 2009

Addiction in the Family

Have you ever had to hold something in for so long that could potentially hurt or even kill someone you love? I have, i have had to deal with the fact that my sister is a drug addict. To hold this secret was eating at my insides. The things i have endured while keeping this secret is astonishing. I was even putting my life in danger to keep this from my family. For the longest time i was the only person other than her friends that knew, i would go on "rides" with her, i would sit there in my own home and watch it happen, i am 18 years old realizing i can not put myself through this anymore. She would make my life miserable if she didn't get what she wanted, she would take anything and everything of mine, from clothes to my camera. She was so good that she would make my parents think they were going crazy by stealing from them and pawning anything she could. After i began to see a pattern and it get worse and worse i would threathen her to get my money back or i would tell them. Finally she broke down and did. The devistation of telling my parents was horrible and once it was out i felt a huge chip off my sholder, i can finally breath. The guilt is starting to be dealt with, and i am finally moving on with my life. My sister went away for awhile and got herself help. Now she is a joy to be around i guess you can say. I am still very angry at her for what she put me through and probably will take me an extreame amount of time to trust and forgive her again. I dont know if i will ever get over the pain she put me through. I still have alot of hate for her, but at the same time i do love her and want the best for her. I have seen alot in my life now because of her and definitely do not want to go down that path. I am very proud she is becoming her old self again and i am getting my sister back. She is not only going to meetings dealing with her life and what has happened to her but she is even speaking out about it to others. My question to you is could you ever forgive your family member for putting you through the stress, guilt and hate that my sister put me through?